Examples of why I'm going to hell.

The bad thing about the internet is the anonymity I feel. This not good for me because in my internal dialog I pretty much shoot from the hip and say what I feel. Luckily, in public I can restrain myself (sometimes), however I find on the internet I just let it all loose.

Here is a recent conversation that took place on a mom e-letter, similar to the breast feeding one a few months ago. sigh.

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: Someone mentioned to me the book called Baby Wise. Has anyone read this? What did you think? I am in need of some advice dealing with a 5 month old who fights sleep for hours and then wakes up 3,4, 5 times at night!

Me: I am a huge advocate of the BabyWise and ChildWise program, however I have to warn you that you need to read the whole book through to understand the program first. Don't just skip to the middle section of trying to get your baby to sleep through the night. It needs to all be read in full. Good luck.

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: Thanks! I simply don't really have time to read a book though could you just give me the ways so we can start doing something thanks.

Me: Are you kidding me? You asked specifically about a book. You want me to sit here and summarize a book for you because you are too lazy to read it for yourself? For the benefit of your child, take the time to get educated. Get off the internet and pick up a book.

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: Why on earth would you feel the NEED to be SO RUDE? Do you have ANY clue as to what I have been through the past few years? No, I didn't think so. You think I am this lazy - sit on the internet day and night kind of mom apparently! Well that couldn't be farther from the truth - my kids have NEVER stepped foot in a daycare or babysitters house - I am soon to be homeschooling - we have 4 daughters..3 here with us and 1 in HEAVEN. SO please don't tell me to get off the internet and pick up a book!

Have you ever suffered a miscarriage? I doubt it and I certainly PRAY that you never ever experience such incredible pain! My precious daughter died the day before my birthday. Right after she died we found out that our 3rd daughter was diagnosed with a congenital heart defect she barely survived!! And now we have our 5 month old... sooo as you can see I HAVE A LOT ON MY PLATE! A LOT MORE THAN THE INTERNET!!

The next time you want to write a snide comment about someones question maybe you THINK about what the other mom is going through!?! I don't think I said "hey if you feel like making me feel like a crappy mom feel free to put me down, thanks!" - Nope - all I was doing is seeking ADVICE and ENCOURAGEMENT from mommies who are in the same situatoin as us! I cannot believe this..I am really just taken back by this - all of this. You are the first RUDE comment I have ever received from someone on ********** - so I am shocked. My husband and I just moved to Texas - 500 miles away from friends and family so I DO GO TO ******** looking for advice! If that is a problem for you then perhaps you should stop reading from this website???

And who are you to tell me to 'get off the internet' - it seems like you are wasting YOUR time to respond to my "stupid" question????

Im sorry for 'blowing up' at you - but you really should think about things before you write them or say them to people. You have NO idea if they are going through a personal HELL - like following the death of their precious child!!

I suppose I should 'get off the internet now'!

Me: Dude. Did you just play the dead baby card. Seriously. According to your time line you miscarried years ago. And you're still playing the dead baby card? Look, we've all got our dead babies, miscarriages, infertility, D&Cs, moving and whatnot issues. It's just life. You seem to be the type of woman desperate for attention and I will clarify my point in two examples. 1) the fact you brought up a dead baby in the context about not having time to read a book. 2) on ******** you have listed over 20 questions in the last 30 days, questions including (but not limited to) why won't my baby hold her own bottle? what are you expecting for a mothers day present? why does my baby cry at bedtime? why doesn't my baby like carrots? All questions looking for sympathy or group internet hugs. It appears you have time to whine into cyberspace. In the time it took you to hammer out that long rambling email you could have read the first 3 chapters in BabyWise.

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: You are NOT worth any of my time. I think you are rude and would appreciate it if you NEVER responded to any of my questions on ********* again - comments like yours are the reason so many women/moms turn away from seeking help and encouragement. You come to a wonderful website looking for some great tips and pieces of advice and then get 'slapped in the face' by someone like you and that is just stupid!

Me: Yep. Could have read another chapter instead of writing that email. You could have been a third of the way through the book.

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: I don't need this from you! All I want is help getting my 5 month old to sleep at night and you are criticizing me for it.

Me: I think we're up to chapter 5 by now. But this is the one that deals with burping your baby so you could have skipped this one and moved onto chapter 6. Interesting that you hate reading and yet are choosing to home school your daughters. Is the big scary world just too much for you?

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: Stop EMAILING ME. I choose to homeschool my children because there are many lies being taught in our American school system. There are perverts that sit in parking lots at schools just waiting to take little girls. Teachers and students have easy access to drugs and there is a lack of supervision by anyone who is supposed to be looking after them! I will not subject my daughters to these places. I don't want to hear anymore from you. Thanks!

Me: So moving onto Chapter 7, if you had followed the rest of the program your baby would probably be sleeping through the night by now. You're the one who started it and appear to be one of those women who have to have the last word in everything. I'm sorry that you hate America so much and big scary words like "evolution". oooooooooooooo did I just creep you out. A little bit? maybe?

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: I'm reporting you to ******** if keep emailing me.

Me: :-P (psst. Chapter 8)

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: Do you seriously have nothing better to do?

Me: Chapter 9. I think you've finished the book! How's she sleeping?

Blessed Wife and Mommy L: I reported you.

Me: .