I was wrong. I hope you can accept this letter as an apology for my wrongness. When my friends were saying nasty things about you, I defended you. When they described you with such intensity, I criticized them for not being fair and hurtful. I'm here now to say, I'm sorry, they were right and I was wrong.
Your invitation was not specifically addressed. No where on it did it say "adults only" to your late afternoon wedding. I incorrectly assumed it would be ok to bring my children, who have names and are not "little ones", to your church service.
I would never bring my children to a reception, who wants knocked over centerpieces and food on the floor? But bringing them into the house of God to witness a union of two people, I never saw the harm. My kids are well behaved in public and any bad behavior is met with quick removal from the situation.
Your email was a shock to me this morning. 'Who are the other two you are bringing to the church and I hope it's not your children...' Who else would it be? That is why I marked 4 for church and 2 for reception. I thought I was being considerate letting you know they were coming and not taking them to your reception. Apparently not. Apparently, allowing my children to step foot in a church in Richmond Texas is not in Jesus's plan for your perfect marriage.
Children were present at the wedding in Cana, where Jesus preformed his miracle. There were also sheep and donkey's too. I suppose I shouldn't bring them either. Wooly and Ass will be horribly disappointed. God's union between his people and the church is our example of marriage, but in this case, I guess children aren't people.
Sorry that my children could have potentially ruined your precious day where all eyes are on you and you run the show. Please forgive me, I was wrong about you.
Thanks,
ME
Don't they usually say something about not having children on the invitation if that is their desire? I have no idea...I always thought kids were invited since there are usually kids IN the ceremony, and then are you going to tell the ring bearer and the flower girl that they can't have cake at the reception? Interesting...
ReplyDeleteyou are correct, typically you put Adults Only or No Children Please on the invitation or in a notecard, or you specifically address the inner envelope to not include the kids names.
ReplyDeleteThis wedding must be 100% anti children because the ring bearer is 30 years old and there is no flower girl. Sad really...but it's her party, and I guess she doesn't want anything to potentially ruin her perfect day...and we all know what a bummer children are. (eye roll).
You also do not email your out of town guests two weeks before the event and tell them that they are not allowed to bring their kids to the church, after they have already made all their travel plans and purchased new outfits and shoes for their kids just for the event, seeing as how they RSVP'd months ago.