I'm starting to think the former advice would have been better. See, the thing with me is, you can pretty much say anything to me and I will either rationalize it or make a joke out of it. What's funny is I get more angry at people for NOT saying something to me when they think it.
So what am I getting at? I am trying my best to learn to not be a bully. I have to understand that some people can not roll with the punches like I do. In fact, a punch to them may be just the thing they didn't need or couldn't handle. I'm not like that because I pride myself in proving I can handle anything, much to my own demise...
Nonetheless. I need to work harder at it. I need to think before I speak, I need to pause before I type things out, I am in fact a bully most of the time. Maybe it was my mommy's fault, maybe it was because I had nothing but guy friends for a long time, but I have to realize that people can't handle the punches like I can.
I find that the delete key is my friend on many occasions.
ReplyDeleteIf I had to choose between passive aggressive behavior and too-brutally honest behavior, I'd definitely choose the latter. It absolutely drives me CRAZY when people beat around the bush. Just freakin' say it. You WANT to, so say it, dammit! At least no one has to wonder where they stand, right?
ReplyDeleteAbby- I need to learn that trick
ReplyDeleteKari- there are very few like us